Rooted in Love - A Garden of My Own
My journey with gardening began in the gentle hands of my Ajji (grandmother). I would watch her tend to each plant with deep dedication. She made me plant few saplings during her stay with us and this germinated my interest in gardening. She would narrate interesting stories from her garden. She often told that if my father ever bought a piece of land and built a house, we should make sure to have a beautiful garden with lots of flowers and trees surrounding it. That idea stuck with me and nutured my fascination with plants. While other kids raced to toy stores, I found myself drawn to nurseries, mesmerised by the colours and scents of blooming flowers. One April Fool’s Day, someone told me our neighbours had black roses in full bloom. I believed it instantly and rushed over, only to find it was a prank. But even that couldn’t dim my excitement. My father, always supportive, would buy me every plant I pointed towards and helped me sow it, turning our garden into a canvas of colour and vibrant life.
As I grew older, my passion never faded. While most teens were drawn to shopping malls, I found my joy in flower exhibitions. The quiet beauty of petals and leaves spoke to me more than any fashion trend ever could. I’d once forgotten my college library books on the bus just to hop off early and wander through flower nurseries. I saved every bit of pocket money, not for chocolates or gifts, but to buy plants that made my heart bloom.
Now, years later, my husband encourages me just as my father once did. He never questions the time or the money spent on our garden. He happily removes the weeds, and helps me around our lawn, to bring me the joy of nurturing plants.
Gardening has taught me to believe in the magic of time and moment. I’ve learnt patience from watching tiny seeds push through stubborn soil, finding strength where no one expects it. This garden isn’t just a hobby , it’s where my heart feels most alive.
Our Garden Through the Seasons
Our garden is a living diary, each season writing its own chapter in color and scent. Spring arrives softly, like a whisper—lavender sways in the breeze, daffodils and daisies stretch toward the sun, and Elicheer, Kalonchee, and pink jasmine bloom with quiet joy.
Then summer sings out loud. Marigolds beam like tiny suns, roses unfurl in rich layers, hibiscus and petunias burst with vibrancy, and frangipani perfumes the air. Bees hum in harmony as jasmine fills the evenings with its sweet embrace.
Autumn brings a gentle hush. The blooms linger, but the garden begins to exhale—chrysanthemums, camellias, and begonias soften the landscape with their muted grace.
Winter, though cooler, carries its own kind of magic. Camellias continue to bloom, cyclamen and primula add delicate charm, open like porcelain dreams, and gerberas and geraniums defy the chill with their year-round color.
Together, these blooms paint a portrait of time—vibrant, fragrant, and always alive.
Saturday, September 6, 2025
Thursday, October 11, 2018
Dasara Habba and Memories
Dasara is one of the auspicious
hindu festivals where Mother Goddess is worshipped in many forms and the tenth
day ends with Vijayadashami, which celebrates the victory of good over
evil.
Since I was a child, I was always
excited by this festival also called as Bombe Habba or dolls festival. These
dolls would be placed on a steps like arrangement. The dolls are organized in themes to tell a story. The
stories narrated through the placement of dolls could be related to Mythology (God/Goddess
based), current affairs, royalty, village fair, school, sports, marriage,
house,..etc. The dolls would be made from clay, plaster of Paris, plastic,
clothes, cotton, threads, glass, wood,…etc. My collection of
these dolls is unique. They were all handmade by my Grandmother!!! This collection very
much set our 'dolls display' different from any such display in our colony and I was proud
to own this collection.
Thinking about the collection she
has created, her devotion to this art and the maintenance activities that follow, makes
me understand what true passion is all about. Over 1000 handmade dolls were displayed
on multiple steps in her living room during Dasara.
However, since last two years they are at display all through the
year in a recently constructed doll enclosure at her residence. Every doll was
delicately created with minute details. My personal favourites were the
stuffed dolls which were colourful with rich clothing and accessories. The themes
Lakshmi – Narayana resting, Annapurna Shiva Bhikshe, Krishna – Gopikas dance,
Teen Deviyan, Bharat Mata, Meera Bai, basket/funnel/straw dolls, Japanese
lady,….etc. are few of the memorable ones. Apart from many artificial flowers made from cloth, cotton, wool, paper,...etc. My grandmother takes great
pleasure to gift many dolls to not only her children and grandchildren but
also to her friends, relatives and neighbours. For her it is a joy to create them.
It takes considerable time and effort of my ajji in carefully preserving and protecting them. She
carries cherished memories of how she learnt making these dolls as a hobby
which was costly and unwanted in those days of hardship and yet, how my grandfather
always supported her for this.
Her preparation to display would
start at least before a week. With the help of my aunt, she would arrange these dolls in
steps. No invitation is required - everyone is welcome during Dasara days
to her residence to view this magnificient arrangement. Residents in her suburb (Jayanagar, Bangalore) popularly called
her Bombe Ajji and her house as
Bombe Mane. I am one of the privileged few who have got the first hand experience of seeing her craft and passion of creating
dolls, giving unique names to all the dolls, singing melodious songs and putting colourful Rangoli. As kids, all of
us singing the ‘Chandanada Bombakka’ folksong during the festival still
resonates around me. These displays and celebrations were a wonderful means to catch
up with family and friends who made some time to visit your home. Off late, we
catch up only on WhatsApp and Facebook sharing pics, thoughts,..etc. Of course, we have the advantages of virtually visiting places but it
lacks the emotional depth that we could feel while in person.
Seeing her enthusiasm even today,
makes me believe in the saying ‘Age is just a number’. When you do what gives
you immense joy; physical pain or stress is just oblivious to you. This same
outlook she has passed on to her next generations; hopefully I am getting a
part of it too.
The tradition of displaying dolls
continue now with my daughter and her friends asking me many questions and
stories related to Mythology. I take this festival as a wonderful opportunity
to narrate her tales that I grew up listening! The tradition has continued for
generations to display and tell stories to young ones, to learn life with no
classes and teach them the biggest moral:
'Triumph of good over Evil!’
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Sunday, July 22, 2007
Compare all the way - My first article in Deccan Chronicle
Published in Hyd local paper - Deccan Chronicle in Teen Chronicle on Date: June 24, 1998.
Compare all the way.
I would like to know if comparisons can ever motivate anyone to produce better results. Every parent loves to compare their children's performance with that of others. Well, the grass is inevitably greener on the other side of the fence.
While sincerely seeking to make their children work harder, they not only compare academic abilities and other skills but also the way they conduct themselves, eat, sleep or brush their teeth. The worst part of the whole thing is that the parents do not make any consideration for the fact that one human being is naturally different from the other and their child is an unique individual in himself. Suppose the girl next door scores more than you, the same old story begins: why didn't you get a better score? I may want to get a better score but certainly not to boost someone else's ambition or to show another person down.
If I make an attempt to score better marks, it would be for the sole purpose of furthering my career. Getting better marks, to me, has nothing to do with putting over my best pal.
The perverse pleasure of excelling at someone else's expense does not allure me. I do not need the thought of humbling my friend to motivate me to score better marks.
The only thing I would feel if the maid's daughter did better than me in her exams is a significant amount of pride and a lot of happiness she had so well without all the luxuries that make life easier for me. But the way my mother puts it, it would make one think that I was the greatest ingrate on the face of this planet and the biggest moron to boot. Why can we not be genuinely happy that the maid's daughter has done well? Why bring in the comaparison that dulls the edge of pride and joy?
why not appreciate her in her own capacity and me in mine? Every teen goes through the process of being measured against someone else and inevitablycoming up short. Every household is sure to have witnessed at least one battle between an irate teen and an equally irate parent. Not only in matters pertaining to studies but even the very way you live is compared and criticised. All this will only serve to create a lot of bad blood between you and the person you are being compared to.
It may give you a psychological complex that will haunt you the rest of your life. So parents, give us a break and let us do the best we can, be it in studying or just in being us.
Compare all the way.
I would like to know if comparisons can ever motivate anyone to produce better results. Every parent loves to compare their children's performance with that of others. Well, the grass is inevitably greener on the other side of the fence.
While sincerely seeking to make their children work harder, they not only compare academic abilities and other skills but also the way they conduct themselves, eat, sleep or brush their teeth. The worst part of the whole thing is that the parents do not make any consideration for the fact that one human being is naturally different from the other and their child is an unique individual in himself. Suppose the girl next door scores more than you, the same old story begins: why didn't you get a better score? I may want to get a better score but certainly not to boost someone else's ambition or to show another person down.
If I make an attempt to score better marks, it would be for the sole purpose of furthering my career. Getting better marks, to me, has nothing to do with putting over my best pal.
The perverse pleasure of excelling at someone else's expense does not allure me. I do not need the thought of humbling my friend to motivate me to score better marks.
The only thing I would feel if the maid's daughter did better than me in her exams is a significant amount of pride and a lot of happiness she had so well without all the luxuries that make life easier for me. But the way my mother puts it, it would make one think that I was the greatest ingrate on the face of this planet and the biggest moron to boot. Why can we not be genuinely happy that the maid's daughter has done well? Why bring in the comaparison that dulls the edge of pride and joy?
why not appreciate her in her own capacity and me in mine? Every teen goes through the process of being measured against someone else and inevitablycoming up short. Every household is sure to have witnessed at least one battle between an irate teen and an equally irate parent. Not only in matters pertaining to studies but even the very way you live is compared and criticised. All this will only serve to create a lot of bad blood between you and the person you are being compared to.
It may give you a psychological complex that will haunt you the rest of your life. So parents, give us a break and let us do the best we can, be it in studying or just in being us.
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Thursday, July 5, 2007
IF.....
If U can Dream and not make Dreams your Master;
If U can Think and not make thoughts your aim;
If U can keep your head,When all about you are losing theirs and blaming it onyou;
If U can trust yourself when all men doubt ,But make allowance for their doubting too;
If U can meet the two - imposed triumph and failurejust the same,Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;
If U can talk to crowds and keep ur virtue,Or, walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt U;If all men count with you, but none too much;
If U can wait and not be tired of waiting;If U can fill the unforgiving minuteWith sixty seconds' worth of distance run -Yours is the Earth and Everthing THAT'S In It,
And - Which is more - YOU'LL BE A MAN, my Son!
- Rudyard Kipling.
If U can Dream and not make Dreams your Master;
If U can Think and not make thoughts your aim;
If U can keep your head,When all about you are losing theirs and blaming it onyou;
If U can trust yourself when all men doubt ,But make allowance for their doubting too;
If U can meet the two - imposed triumph and failurejust the same,Or, being lied about, don't deal in lies,Or, being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise;
If U can talk to crowds and keep ur virtue,Or, walk with Kings - nor lose the common touch;
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt U;If all men count with you, but none too much;
If U can wait and not be tired of waiting;If U can fill the unforgiving minuteWith sixty seconds' worth of distance run -Yours is the Earth and Everthing THAT'S In It,
And - Which is more - YOU'LL BE A MAN, my Son!
- Rudyard Kipling.
My Favorite Poem - The Road Not Taken
The Road Not Taken
TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference
- Robert Frost.
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